A Relationship is Like a Plant

Bob Stahn
When couples come to me wanting help for their relationship I often offer them this simple analogy: a relationship is like a plant. It is dynamic, living and growing and there are two basic principles that, if followed, will make it flourish. First there must be the absence of negative. For the plant it means that there cannot be anyone allowed to mangle the leaves, freeze it, starve it, subject it to harmful chemicals or bugs, or let it dry out. But, just protecting the plant from the negative will not make it flourish—we also must follow the second principle: there must be the presence of positive. For the plant it means that it must receive adequate nutrition, ample water and sunlight, and be kept at a warm temperature.






