Archive for August 26, 2010

Shame, Guilt, and Embarrassment

Last week when I came home from my work at a community mental health clinic, I was exhausted. I made sure that I took time to soothe myself and not make any decisions or have any frank talks that evening. Sure, that helped some, but I could not puzzle out what triggered the exhaustion.

Understanding Anger–”Going From 0-60mph” in Afghanistan

There are many examples of things Troops encounter here in Afghanistan that create a 0-60mph conditioned response. This response of “quick to react” may translate into “quick to anger” once back home in the States. Here’s some insight as to why Troops may have a short fuse after deployment: 1) According to one of the [...]

Why?

My son turns four in September and my wife and I were pleasantly surprised at one of his biggest discoveries of his toddler years – the power of the “why?” This is one of our recent conversations. I say, “Son, daddy will be right back.” He says, “Why daddy?” I say, “Because daddy has to [...]

The Light Meets the Dark

As a counselor-in-training and client, I have thought a lot about my personal story and professional purpose. The generic response a lot of people give when asked why they chose this profession is, I want to help people. Thats great, but there is so much more to our profession. There is a much deeper purpose [...]

Moving Mountains

New York City…circa 1984. Crime had overwhelmed New York at all levels. It was chaotic, seedy, drug ridden and dangerous. And then suddenly, in just a few short years, things changed. By the mid 1990’s, New York had become the safest “big city” in the nation. How? How in the world did a large, crime [...]