Archive for December 29, 2010

Holidays For Nonbelievers

I can see how Christmas -and the holidays in general- can overwhelm us and make us focus entirely on our families and friends. I can see how some celebrate Christmas from a religious perspective, while others celebrate it as a family secular tradition where they have the chance to be with their loved ones, share [...]

The Intellectual Integrity of Commitment

Drinking coffee with friends, I loved myself dearly. We all did really. We would talk for hours about the meaning of life, referencing Kierkegaard, Camus, Dostoevsky, or any number of courageous thinkers we admired. And I remember looking upon issue after issue with cool detachment as if I were a scientist observing what I saw [...]

A Tribute To LG

This past week, I found out that a long-term client whom I will call LG passed away at the age of 44 years old, when I read her obituary in an online newspaper. I saw this client for ten years when I worked for two different agencies, and then, terminated with her in November when [...]

In the Classroom of the Hydrangeas

Home and garden and lifestyle publications are replete with images of them at particular times of year, their prolific blooms emblazoned across the glossy magazine pages. Their colors – pink, blue, lavender, deep purple, lime green and white – dot the landscape of my suburban neighborhood, too, showy blossoms that come about May and herald [...]

Creative Counseling with Married Couples

I have a married couple who are in the process of deciding if they want to work to keep their marriage going or if they want to get a divorce. Trust in this couple is poor, both have accused each other of cheating, and neither can trust the other around members of the opposite sex. [...]

Counselor, You Have to Have a Sense of Humor

During my practicum years, I remember my supervisor telling me the way to begin a session was to ask, “What brings you here today?” I thought this was a cool way to get a family started. She said to note who was the first to speak. When the five-year-old little daughter broke the silence with, [...]