Understanding Anger–”Going From 0-60mph” in Afghanistan

Natosha Monroe

There are many examples of things Troops encounter here in Afghanistan that create a 0-60mph conditioned response. This response of “quick to react” may translate into “quick to anger” once back home in the States. Here’s some insight as to why Troops may have a short fuse after deployment:
1) According to one of the Army Chaplains here at Shank, just last night he was awakened to see the father of 3 children who’d been the victim of Taliban violence. He sprang to action and raced to the medical facility to find one small child’s heart in the hands of the Army doctor who was attempting to massage it back to rhythm. The other child had been shot through the back of the head and his eyes were out of their sockets. The little girl was ok, but screaming and crying. The father’s face was blank and he simply nodded his head in resignation as the Chaplain informed him he’d lost a son and may lose another. This is the reality Soldiers and Afghan citizens face daily here in Afghanistan. So what’s startling about a knock on a door or a shake of the foot to wake someone up? For the average person, nothing. But what about that knock on the door or shake on the foot to wake up the Army Chaplain at any time in the night–what might that mean for him?

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Why?

Pete Saunders

My son turns four in September and my wife and I were pleasantly surprised at one of his biggest discoveries of his toddler years – the power of the “why?” This is one of our recent conversations. I say, “Son, daddy will be right back.” He says, “Why daddy?” I say, “Because daddy has to go get something from the store.” And my little boy says, “Why daddy?” Realizing I’m being setup for an endless “Why” session, I ask, “Would you like daddy to bring you back something nice?” To which he excitedly replies “Yeah!” One for daddy!

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The Light Meets the Dark

Courtnay Veazey

As a counselor-in-training and client, I have thought a lot about my personal story and professional purpose. The generic response a lot of people give when asked why they chose this profession is, I want to help people. Thats great, but there is so much more to our profession. There is a much deeper purpose that runs through our veins and unites us. The more I grow in this field, the more I fall in love with Jung’s concept of the shadow side and the contradictory, yet healing, nature of the light versus the dark. I am therefore more aware of recognizing this archetype.

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Moving Mountains

David P. Diana

New York City…circa 1984. Crime had overwhelmed New York at all levels. It was chaotic, seedy, drug ridden and dangerous. And then suddenly, in just a few short years, things changed. By the mid 1990’s, New York had become the safest “big city” in the nation.

How? How in the world did a large, crime infested city successfully change its fortunes?

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Relax To Dream

Diana Pitaru

Dreams are amazing! Don’t you just love dreaming? As a child, going to sleep was one of the things I was always looking forward to, because in my sleep I could always dream. Nobody ever told me “no”, or “don’t” or give me any negative reinforcement. I would wake up and try to remember my dreams wondering what they meant; I would then sit with my mother while she would try and help me interpret them. But then I grew up, and as a teenager I was not interested in spending all that much time with my mom. I forgot about dreams, dreaming, and all those moments when I would get a breakthrough. Then in college, it all came back when for a few semesters I started reading Jung.

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“Courage Is The Capacity To Meet The Anxiety…”

Carol Whiteley

“Courage is the capacity to meet the anxiety which arises as one achieves freedom. It is the willingness to differentiate, to move from the protecting realms of parental dependence to new levels of freedom and integration. ” Rollo May, The Meaning of Anxiety

I am an older student who should be thinking of my retirement options, and yet I have a drive to use myself creatively to facilitate the healing of others who might benefit from my trials and errors in life.

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Rise Up! Ask For A Raise!

Bob Walsh and Norm Dasenbrook

Many counselors have complained about low reimbursement rates from managed care and insurance companies. Some have gone to fee for service payments and abandoned managed care altogether.
Dropping all managed care contracts and only accepting fees paid by clients is one way to handle the problem. Doing that cuts out many clients that have paid into their insurance and expect to be able to use it for counseling. In many demographics, practices would suffer unless our niche occupies the upper end of the income spectrum.

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Bullying: A Counselor’s Perspective

Robbin Miller

Massachusetts passed a new law entitled, “An Act Relative to Bullying in Schools,” in 2010. The purpose of this new law is to “create more positive school climates and age-appropriate instruction on bullying prevention in each grade, and schools must offer information to parents on bullying prevention.” (Worcester Medicine, July/August 2010). School personnel (teachers, guidance counselors, aides, bus drives and cafeteria workers) are required to report incidents to the appropriate officials for them to investigate and to take disciplinary actions when appropriate. Bullying includes not only verbal, physical and written repeated acts of aggression and gestures but now includes cyberbullying through electronic means-Facebook; Twitter; Emails; Texting, and through other electronic devices.

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